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Thank You Notes – Tradition vs. Modernity – It Depends on the Situation

by Peggy M. Parks, AICI CIP, CPBS

Thank you notes that are personal and handwritten are still required in certain situations.

Tradition vs. Modernity

Thank You Card Laying on TableFor years the thank you note was the lynchpin of the etiquette industry, but with modern technology demanding instant communications, it seems that sending a traditional letter could actually be viewed by some as bad etiquette.

In an article for T Magazine, Alexandra Jacobs points out that thank you cards can be seen as fussy in today’s world. Cards can take a few days to land in someone’s mailboxes, by which time they may have written you off as an ingrate with bad manners because you didn’t call or email with a simple “thanks.”

Why bust out the Montblanc and monogrammed stationery when you can thank someone in person, or by text?

How to Send a Thank You Note Depends on the Situation

Formal vs Informal Occasions

Personally, I think it depends on the situation. Not every encounter calls for a formal thank you card. For instance, a dinner party thrown by good friends can be honored with a bottle of wine and a phone call or text (assuming they use texting) the next day thanking them for a wonderful evening. However “It’s never wrong to send a written thank you, and people always appreciate getting “thanks” in writing”. ~ The Emily Post Institute

On the other hand, gifts received in connection with formal occasions, such as shower gifts, wedding gifts, or charitable donations or work, warrant a thank you card with a personal handwritten note. There have been many times when I’ve sent a gift and haven’t heard a peep from the recipient, which leaves you wondering if they ever received it. I like to keep a stash of cards and stamps handy at home so I can quickly dash off a note and pop it in the mail right away. Don’t leave it too long—more than a week and the other person may feel slighted.

Of course, you needn’t send a card every time you get a gift. The above scenario refers to situations in which the presents are typically presented en masse and may perhaps be opened later. If, say, a pal sends flowers for your birthday, it’s better to call them up and thank them. No card necessary.

Proper Business Etiquette – Job Interview Thank You Notes, When and How to Send

For job interviews, I do think sending a thank you card is a savvy move. If the card is thoughtful and has a nice print, the potential employer is likely to remember it and maybe even tack it up on their wall, which keeps you in their thoughts. But because hiring decisions can sometimes be made within days, I recommend having the card with you so that you can fill it out and put it in the mail as soon as you leave the interview. That way the interviewer will receive it the next day. If that’s not an option, email a thank you within 24 hours. An emailed thank you has become more the norm, and certainly better than not sending one!

Be Creative When Saying Thank You for Big Favors

Don’t overlook creative ways to thank someone. For big favors, such as a week’s lodging in a friend’s house, a simple thank you—verbal or written on a Hallmark card—may not be enough. Jacobs recalls a friend who once thanked his hosts by tacking a funny autographed photo of himself—he was an actor appearing in the Fruit of the Loom commercials”—in one of their photo frames. Of course, leaving a photo of yourself behind may not be your friends’ idea of a gift (unless your name is George Clooney), but a tasteful fruit basket or gift certificate to a beloved restaurant should do.

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