When a couple gets married, one of the first things they’re asked is when they’re going to have children. But according to several newlyweds of my acquaintance, asking about children is a major faux pas.
Why? For one, the couple just got married. They want to enjoy the moment, not feel pressured to procreate. If and when they decide to start a family, that is their personal business and it is up to them to share their plans.
And it’s not just newlyweds who resent prying questions about children. A friend of mine mentioned friends of theirs who have been married for several years. The couple are childless but just bought a large house, prompting one acquaintance to ask if they were planning to fill it up with children. I’m sure the person meant well, but in truth the couple had been trying to conceive for some time, to no avail. It is a sensitive issue for them, so they told the acquaintance that whether or not they had children one day was their personal business. I’m sure that person won’t be so nosy in the future!
You wouldn’t want someone prying into your personal life, so respect the privacy of others by resisting the urge to ask invasive questions. If they want to share, they will.